June 17, 2018

Drop Off The Path

Find a path with heart, Jacques de Villiers, motivational speaker

“Any path is only a path, and there is no affront to oneself or to others in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you.” Carlos Castaneda

Most paths lead to somewhere and nowhere. When we get somewhere we often realise that it’s nowhere.

Each destination we reach is a point on a treasure map. We go from point to point until we find the ultimate treasure … our death. Even at that point, we realise that’s not the final treasure. There’s still the hereafter to traverse.

When we embark on a path that catches our fancy it’s done with great enthusiasm and gusto in the beginning. It makes our heart sing … or so we think.

As we continue and face the obstacles that attach themselves to any path, our enthusiasm wanes and our heart wavers. We become uncertain whether the path is the right one.

This is why the only path with heart is the inner one. Let your soul, that has been with you from before you were born, be your guide.

Listen your soul give expression via it’s voice … intuition.

If a path feels right, it probably is.

But, don’t mistake any path as permanent. You don’t have to stick it out because societal norms of perseverance is so revered.

Why stay on a path that makes you unhappy? There’s no heart in that.

Of course, this is not to say that when the obstacles come (and they will) – the rejection, the boredom, the resistance – that you must jump ship at the merest whiff of discomfort. Understand that if there’s discomfort (if it’s a path with heart) it means you’re on the right path.

We could live our lives by Robert Frost’s words and lead the most fulfilled life. “Two roads diverged in a wood, and Iโ€” I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.”

Remember, every moment is a path.

Having a conversation, for example, is a path. A path to understanding of the other.

  • If your conversation is full of anger, you can drop that path and choose a path of gratitude.
  • If your path is one of judgement, you can drop it and choose the path of curiosity.
  • If your path is one of arrogance, you can drop it and choose the path of humility.

It’s easy to drop a path. You see, there are no wrong paths. They all serve a purpose of preparing us for the final moment. So, find the lesson in every path, reflect on it and move onto the next path just a little more enlightened so that at the end you present your creator with the greatest gift of all … the best version of yourself.

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14 Comments on “Drop Off The Path

Willie Snyman
June 17, 2018 at 6:16 pm

Thanks Jacques, I can identify with this.

June 18, 2018 at 5:53 am

Thanks for reaching out Willie. I think we can probably all identify with it. ๐Ÿ˜‰

February 15, 2019 at 8:45 am

I think we can all identify with this. Go look up Carlos Castaneda with Find A Path With Heart

February 10, 2019 at 4:48 am

Good one, Jacques, very relevant. Thanks!

February 15, 2019 at 8:44 am

Thank you, Tony

Alison Gitelson
February 15, 2019 at 7:32 am

I think many people struggle to feel that path and you’ve described well the difference between discomfort from your soul and discomfort from being stretched. I used to be unsure if I could feel it. Mostly nowadays I do with relative ease so I think awareness and making many mindful choices makes us amore attuned.

Your point about changing paths is also so valuable in today’s world. It took me years to unlearn my childhood indoctrination of perseverance to the very end and realise I could change my mind and often should.

Thank you for sharing. I look forward to dipping into the complete book.

Nikki Viljoen
February 15, 2019 at 7:37 am

Oooooh love it! I seem to be getting a nudge from the Universe along the same lines, from several different fronts. Time to listen! ๐Ÿ™‚

February 15, 2019 at 8:43 am

Yes it is, Nikki. ๐Ÿ™‚

Pat McKrill
February 15, 2019 at 8:35 am

Jacques, as always, good stuff. Thank you.

I think we all need the seed of curiosity planted within us if we’re going to move on in life. But we need to water it every now and again.
Ask any mouse who got dropped into a maze………….

Looking forward to the book. Cheers bru.

February 15, 2019 at 8:44 am

Thanks Pat, hope things are well in KZN

Julie van zyl
February 19, 2019 at 12:47 pm

Very thought provoking – I am looking forward to reading your book.

February 22, 2019 at 11:57 am

Thanks Julie,

Hope you’re well.

I sent a digital version out to my database yesterday (Thursday). Hope you got it.

Julie van zyl
February 22, 2019 at 12:10 pm

Thank you very much Jacques, I did receive it.

February 22, 2019 at 12:17 pm

Awesome. I’d love your feedback.


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